Published on August 6, 2004 By Ariadne Calzanti In Blogging
Tonight, I have been looking at web pages on both serial killers, and also at missing persons. I find it sad that my first thought about most of the people on the missing persons websites is "They must be dead". What is wrong with this world that people either feel the need to disappear because they could not cope, or were ill, or indeed were kidnapped or murdered? It is so sad to me that in these times of greatly advanced technology, we cannot find these lost people, even if just to say to their families "They are fine, but don't want to come back".

I was recently touched by a missing persons case when a client I was due to work with went missing from a local hospital for people with mental illness (I mentioned him during my previous post). I heard that he had gone missing on the local radio, but was unaware until that point that he had even needed further treatment at the hospital. The last time I saw him, he was talking to me about how Kate Bush spent the day telling him about her "mansion", and joking with him. Of course, this was all in his head as voices, but the medication had controlled it to the degree where he was happy just to listen, and they were benign.

Then, then next I heard he was found in a river, miles away from the hospital (there is a major investigation going on with the hospital in question as there have been at least a dozen patients walk out and kill themselves/die). I mention this case as I felt so touched by the circumstances surrounding him after only knowing him for a matter of weeks, that I cannot even begin to imagine what it is like to lose a close member of your family without knowing what has happened to them.

Moving on, is anyone else fascinated by serial killers? Their minds are just amazing to me, and I cannot cease to wonder what goes wrong to make them do what they do. Is it insanity, or is it just evil, and they know they are doing wrong, but do it anyway? I am in the middle of reading about a nurse here in the UK who murdered and attacked many children on a paediatrics ward to "get attention" (Munchausen by Proxy syndrome). Amazing. Even more amazing is that people didn't spot the pattern until many children had died, and others been left with permanent brain damage.

Oh, the world is so sad these days! I shall just have to make do with sending up a small prayer that those who can be found, are found; and those families who are grieving, are comforted.

Aria

Comments
on Aug 07, 2004
I likewise find the lives and thought processes of serial killers fascinating. My first paper in my very first college English course was on Jeffrey Dahmer. There were indications going all the way back to his earliest years that he was not a "normal" child, however, what parent would be able to connect the dots and forsee those crimes in the future for a then innocent child? In all honesty, I don't remember all that much from all my college coursework, but I do remember many of the things I read in research for my paper on Dahmer.
on Aug 10, 2004
It's funny how the things like that stick out, isn't it? It's a fascinating subject. I'd love to study it! I don't think there is a way that parents can forsee what a child is going to do. How could they?

Aria
on Aug 10, 2004
What is wrong with this world that people either feel the need to disappear because they could not cope, or were ill, or indeed were kidnapped or murdered? It is so sad to me that in these times of greatly advanced technology, we cannot find these lost people, even if just to say to their families "They are fine, but don't want to come back".
Very touching, together with frustration. I have written several blogs bemoaning our indifference in tracking down these killers waging  domestic terrorism . While we fiddle over Osama, we missed the fire raging at home by such atrocities. Thanks for a penetrating article.
on Aug 10, 2004
Thanks for reading and commenting. It just makes me sad to the core that we can't do anything about it. Shouldn't we, as an advanced civilisation, be able to prevent people going missing? Prevent them feeling the need to disappear? Actually offer them relevant help before it gets to that stage? Obviously not!!

Aria
on Aug 12, 2004
Good article. Unfortunately, we live in a society that thinks it's OK that the mentally ill wander the streets homeless. A society that only recently has started taking stands against the abuse of women and children. Prayers and articles like this, are definitely one of the positive things we can do. I'm sorry about your client.
on Aug 13, 2004
Thanks, WiseFawn. The way society treats disabled people as a whole disgusts me. BUT, I can see it from the other side, and know that quite a few disabled people I have come into contact with have played on their disability to get something. Or they won't do as much for themselves as they are able to, just because they have a carer. Or they complain about not having enough money (and this REALLY bugs me) even though they don't pay many of their own utility bills, plus get various benefits. Before I get shouted at, I don't mean that every disabled person is like this, but I have seen some people, and I know they are out there.

So, rant over. Back to original topic...!

The home that was in question in my article is still under investigation, and I find that awful. Not that they are being investigated, but that they don't admit right away that they were wrong and should have checked their clients more often, or even had the front door locked - it was only a secure unit, after all!
on Aug 20, 2004

BUT, I can see it from the other side, and know that quite a few disabled people I have come into contact with have played on their disability to get something.

Aye, there are always the con-artists--many of whom are veterans with trumped up disabilities.

on Aug 24, 2004
True, true. It's sad, but a lot of the people I have worked with (not all, by any means) will just let you do everything for them, even though they are perfectly capable themselves.

Aria
on Aug 24, 2004
I've worked in a jail for over ten years and have known many killers. What's shocking as that most are so ordinary.
on Aug 24, 2004
Yes, very much so. And people wonder how they didn't spot a pattern in their behaviour. It's because they were acting "normal" to the outside world!